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Embracing The Single Life<\/h1>\n

\"singleThere are two kinds of people who come to me looking for help finding a mate<\/a>. \u00a0There\u2019s the person who is happy and fulfilled, and therefore they are patient as it sometimes takes me and my team awhile to find their ideal partners. \u00a0And then there is the person who is so eager to find the love of their life that it borders on desperation, and because of this they\u2019re forgetting to savor the moment and enjoy their own life journey in the meantime.<\/span><\/p>\n

We all want to meet our special forever someone. \u00a0And that\u2019s a wonderful goal to have\u2026but we don\u2019t all meet our life partners when we\u2019re young. \u00a0So even if you\u2019re single and still looking for a life partner, it is vital that you get out and enjoy your life as a healthy, well-adjusted man or woman. \u00a0You need to be a whole person on your own, so that you have something to offer when Mr. or Ms. Right walks into your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

To that end, I\u2019ve put together some of my best tips for \u2013 yes, I\u2019m saying it \u2013 enjoying the single life. \u00a0Because I\u2019m not just here to help clients fall in love with someone else\u2026it\u2019s my hope that going through this process with me, ultimately clients fall in love with themselves too. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tip #1: Embrace Eating Alone\u2026And Liking It<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

There are a lot of men and women who don\u2019t try new restaurants, bars, or other social settings\u2026because they feel like they have to have someone with them first.<\/span><\/p>\n

Banish this attitude from your thoughts. \u00a0If there is a restaurant you want to try\u2026try it! \u00a0And if you\u2019re a little anxious at first, that\u2019s okay\u2026take a book or iPad or laptop and also get some work done. \u00a0Get used to sitting at the table alone. \u00a0Get used to your own company in a crowd. \u00a0Like anything in life, it just takes a little practice\u2026but we guarantee once you get used to it, you\u2019ll wonder why you ever hesitated in the first place. \u00a0It will boost your confidence, and better yet, you\u2019ll have more ideas on where you\u2019d like to go for a first date when you DO meet that special someone.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"enjoyTip #2: Embrace Your Friends<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Many forget to engage with their friends while searching for a life partner. \u00a0And believe it or not, this can be a turn-off to potential love interests. \u00a0You want to show that you have confidence and a good sense of self\u2026which is accomplished by having a healthy social life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fill up your calendar with \u201cfriend dates\u201d. \u00a0And if your friend list is shorter than you\u2019d like, join local interest groups or clubs to meet other like-minded individuals.<\/span><\/p>\n

Be proactive about it; don\u2019t just wait for others to call you. \u00a0If you\u2019re looking at the week ahead and finding your calendar empty\u2026scroll through the contacts in your cell phone. Give people a call. \u00a0Set play dates. Don\u2019t wait for Mr. or Ms. Right to breathe energy into your social life\u2026do that for yourself!<\/span><\/p>\n

\"findingTip #3: Take A Vacation<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

One of the questions I like to ask new clients is for a list of places they\u2019ve always wanted to travel\u2026and it\u2019s amazing how long the list is for so many people, because they\u2019ve been waiting for that special someone before planning those dream vacations.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait. \u00a0That\u2019s all I can say. \u00a0You want things to talk about when you DO go on a first date. \u00a0So take that cross-country road trip. \u00a0Plan that European adventure. \u00a0Take a friend with you\u2026or go solo. \u00a0Just don\u2019t wait, because the longer you wait, the more you\u2019re in essence putting your life on hold for that elusive person you\u2019re searching for. \u00a0They\u2019ll come into your life when the time is right, but in the meantime you have to keep living for yourself. \u00a0Making memories and having adventures.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tip #4: Create Your Dream Home<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you live in an apartment, a condo, a duplex, or a house\u2026you don\u2019t have to wait for a life partner to make it a home. \u00a0Quite often singles will make the excuse that they\u2019re waiting to really settle into a place until they meet the person they want to build a home with. \u00a0But I say: Don\u2019t. Wait.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever home fits your budget and your lifestyle\u2026make it your own. \u00a0Decorate with your favorite colors. \u00a0Remodel. \u00a0Invest in furniture. \u00a0Get the pet you want, instead of waiting to find out first if your future spouse prefers cats, dogs, or hamsters.<\/span><\/p>\n

This serves two purposes: first, when that right person DOES come into your life, you\u2019ll have a home to take them to. \u00a0A true home, that embodies your personality. \u00a0And second, it will give YOU a beautiful home to inhabit while waiting for that right person to come into your life. \u00a0Having a happy home can be a huge boost for morale.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tip #5: Pursue A Fulfilling Career<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

In a tough job market sometimes we have to take what we can get to pay the bills, but that doesn\u2019t mean you should ever stop working towards your dream career. \u00a0YOUR career. \u00a0Not the career you think your future spouse might want you to have, and not the career you think will be easiest to leave behind the minute you get married. \u00a0I\u2019m talking about the career YOU want. \u00a0Today.<\/span><\/p>\n

Women in particular can fall into the habit of waiting for Prince Charming to rescue them from the evil world of nine to five, and therefore don\u2019t pursue what they really love. \u00a0And men on the other hand can find themselves in the corporate rat race, trying to make enough money to provide themselves and their future families with first class lifestyles\u2026but at the expense of their own happiness. \u00a0Finding a mate can be a laborious process!<\/span><\/p>\n

In the end, for both men and women, just keep this in mind: you don\u2019t know how long it will take to meet your ideal life partner. \u00a0Some meet theirs young, others don\u2019t. \u00a0But you have to feel fulfilled and happy in your own life no matter what. \u00a0If you have a career you enjoy, you\u2019ll be well on your way to achieving that personal happiness. \u00a0Remember, you\u2019ll spend a large portion of your life at work if you\u2019re putting in 40+ hours each week; that\u2019s far too much of your life to be wasted on a career that makes you unhappy.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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